

Tom Tillar, Vice President for Alumni Relations, stands next to the permanent April 16 memorial
Thousands gathered upon Virginia Tech's drill field today to dedicate a permanent memorial to the students lost in the tragic events of April 16. While snow flurries and a dismal rain accompanied the frigid temperatures of that spring morning, the atmosphere at the memorial's dedication was entirely different. The 93 degree heat rippled off of the dry and brittle grass while cicadas buzzed and chirped away in the trees. A sea of orange and maroon surrounded a simple white tent that looked up the hill towards the now permanent semi-circle of Hokie stones. Atop the reviewing stand a bell rang out, marking the presentation of a ceremonial stone to the family of a fallen Hokie.
Thirty-two stones. Thirty-two tolls of the bell. Thirty-two lives remembered -- and one forgotten.
When the sun set on Virginia Tech on the 16th of April, thirty-three Hokies lay dead - Cho's thirty-two victims and Cho himself. While Hokies United placed a semi-circle of thirty-two stones upon the Virginia Tech drill field, a 33rd was soon added for the gunman himself. Katelyn Johnson, the student who anonymously placed the 33rd stone explained the thoughts behind her decision to the Virginian Pilot: "If we're a community, we're a community. If we're a family, we're a family. You can't pick and choose your family." While the adornments and mementos that graced the 33rd stone were somewhat more sparse than those that festooned the markers for the other fallen members of the Tech community, they were present nonetheless. Alongside those of his fellow Hokies,Cho's stone was likewise visited and likewise decorated with the tokens and messages of a grieving student body. One such message simply read "we forgive you because we have been forgiven."
The 33rd Stone stood throughout the spring and summer as a symbol of redemption and hope, love and compassion. Whatever his crimes,Cho was a student of Virginia Tech taken too early by violence. Whatever his wrongs, he left behind parents who loved him and who mourn his passing. Whatever tragedy he inflicted on others he was also a victim of tragedy, both physically and spiritually. The loss felt by his family and the suffering of those who knew him is no less real and no less significant for the crimes he committed, and in the wake of the April 16th tragedy, his death was also mourned.
This is not to say that the 33rd Stone was not a topic of some contention on Virginia Tech's campus. The stone was removed from the ad hoc memorial on at least one occasion and, though it was inevitably replaced by students determined to mark and mourn the loss of all Hokies that fell that day, even in its absence, the empty space where it rested served as memorial enough.
But the stone, and even the vacant space marking its absence have been eliminated from the permanent memorial. To many in the Tech Community the decision not to include Cho's stone in the memorial is a moral surrender - a statement that Cho's death does not deserve the recognition and mourning of the Virginia Tech community because his actions condemn him beyond the point of such sympathies. Yet as a human being, even as a killer,Cho is still worthy of mourning. Even as a murderer, he remains a former student of Virginia Tech and a casualty of the events of April 16.
Such recognition does not pardon Cho. His actions remain heinous crimes against professors, students and the academy, but choosing to embrace an explanation of Cho as evil and beyond redemption and sympathy denies his humanity and his part in the human condition. Cho was more than a killer, more than a criminal, and more than a murderer. Were he not, we could no more fault him for his actions then we could fault a wild animal for attacking and killing a human or the fabled scorpion for stinging the turtle who agreed to ferry him across a river. Unlike the Scorpion, Cho's sting was one of decision rather than instinct and choice rather than nature. The very anger and outrage that will not tolerate a 33rd stone demands its presence, for in faulting Cho we must also recognize his capacity for choice and thus his humanity and the tragedy of his death as well. There are other "Chos " in the world and to protect ourselves and our children from others like him we must understand him. To understand him we must be both willing and able to mourn his loss as well as the thirty-two others that he killed that April morning.
Tomorrow, as classes resume at Virginia Polytechnic Institute and State University, thirty-two stones will greet students as they dash across the Drill Field towards the first classes of the Fall Semester. Thirty-two mourned. Thirty-two memorialized. Thirty-two remembered. And one neither memorialized nor mourned, condemned in death as he believed himself to be condemned in life: at once victim and killer, tragic and tragedy.
Amid the thirty-two stones that rest upon the Virginia Tech Drill Field are the tears and sorrows of the April 16th shootings, never to be forgotten. Within the one that is absent are the life-saving lessons of that day, quick to fade and soon to vanish like the chill snowflakes that fell one April morning.
Very well written. You hit the nail on the head. Its a tough tightrope that the administration is walking between the wishes of all involved. I would have rather seen a 33rd stone, but can understand why the administration felt compelled to leave it out. If they had included it I'm sure several of the families would have boycotted the dedication and a lot more negative media would have been directed in Tech's direction. I guess thats politics for you....
I think given that some of the families protested of the inclusion of Nas at the upcoming concert they would have been pretty upset at the inclusion of a place for their children's murder at the memorial. Combined with the fact that the media has already shown a willingness to lend a megaphone to the concerns of the families, it would have certainly generated a few less than desirable quotes in the press.
Another thing they were probably concerned about was the potential for the 33rd stone to be defaced in the future. I stopped by the memorial a good deal in the first few weeks after the 16th. And almost every time I did, there was a nasty letter or two set on Cho's stone. They were typically removed each night, but sure enough a few days later another would appear. I'm sure they would have had the same problem with a permanent stone. Not to mention the fact that someone stole it at least once.
Thanks again for the good read.
Although I strongly disagree with their ultimate decision, I understand why the administration chose to place only 32 stones in the memorial. What I cannot understand is why they didn't leave an empty space for the 33rd.
When visiting the temporary memorial it was impossible not to see that even in the occasional absence of a stone in the 33rd space, grieving pilgrims left flowers, letters, and mementos to the killer that had changed their lives. It was obvious that they needed that space to mourn the killer who, by taking his own life, robbed us, not only of 32 family members, but of the opportunity to confront him for his crimes.
The 33rd memorial space represented one of the most beautiful acts of forgiveness and compassion I have ever seen and it gave me faith that the university community would go forward but that they would never forget, not only the 32 wonderful people who were so brutally taken from us, but the one who was responsible for the tragedy.
But when the administration chose the design for the new memorial they left only enough space in the semi-circle for 32 stones. Absent the space to mourn for the 33rd I fear that we will forget and I fear that those who forget their past are doomed to see it repeated.
As a graduate, a student, a community member, and a teacher at Virginia Tech, I mourn the absence of the 33rd stone as I do the events of April 16. In a few short hours, I will return to a classroom on Virginia Tech's campus to teach a new group of students whose lives have been touched and changed by tragedy. I wish for them the compassion and unity in the human condition represented by the 33rd stone; I am fortunate to be able to carry that message with me wherever I teach in the future. But, I wonder, in 20, 50, 100 years, who will be left at Virginia Tech to be the Speaker for the Dead?
I also enjoyed this piece. I'm not sure how I feel about that 33rd stone. I would find it difficult to place a memorial for the murderer next to one for my child if I were a parent of one of the victims.
On a different note, I think you've represented the position of Speaker well.
-Rob
Killfile, thank you for this well-written, balanced article. I did not know about the 33rd stone. You make an excellent point about the need to view Cho as a human being, rather than some one-dimensional icon. Tragedies like this one are part of humanity, and we will have to deal with them.
Cho was more than a killer, more than a criminal, and more than a murderer. Were he not, we could no more fault him for his actions then we could fault a wild animal for attacking and killing a human
Beautifully written, as always, and you make a very profound point.
The only hope for preventing repeats of this kind of tragedy is to try to understand the people who create them. If we simply dismiss them as two-dimensional horrors, if we cannot find empathy for the pain that spurred them to lash out at those around them, we will never be able to help those who would follow in their footsteps.
Kilfile: an eloquent, thoughtful and thought-provoking essay on a very difficult subject.
Celestina: your words express my feelings very accurately (probably better than I can). I've often thought about people who bask in pride at the achievements of their nation or community, but want to hide the failures, in prison, or exile, or by execution. I think the right to such pride bears with it the responsibility of such failures.
I know it's a very difficult idea to swallow, that as members of a society we are all in some way responsible for the violent madmen that society produces. Hatred is much simpler. To think "he was not one of us, not like us" is too easy.
Apart from everything else the murderer may be, he is also a mirror we need courage to look into.
Killfile-
once again you make the point people don't want to dwell upon with elegance and aplomb.
as a fellow Virginian i feel the pain endured by the students and faculty at VT, and there is at least some solace in the notion that some people do recognize that in spite of his actions, Cho was indeed part of that community and that community, like it or not, should share some responsibility in that tragic day's events.
once again, well done my friend.
Very powerful stuff. Thanks for writing this, it needed saying.
Well said, Killfile. Foregiveness is far too seldom a part of the human spirit.
Dugg, please go vote it up Digg. Chris, I think this is a great piece and I'm troubled that I haven't heard about this issue until now.
Eh, it helps to have the Blitz thing going on but I need to find a way to organize this better. I rarely manage to get more than 10 votes for anything I blitz. Maybe I need a blitz blitz on newsvine ;)
I also sent a link to 3quarksdaily.com so they might publish it. It's not exactly their standard fare, but...
I enjoy very much your style of writing, who cares what Digg thinks. Your community is out here. I feel bad for all the family members, including 33. How, can people be so uncaring. My son was killed by a hit and run driver and I forgive him, whoever it was. I commend you on your article and your point of view.
Lisann - I am sorry to hear about your son. Your courage in forgiving the perpretrator shows very deep empathy and compassion. Thank you for sharing. Peace.
Good one, Killfile. I really did like it.
Is the title a deliberate reference to the Orson Scott Card book?
Well done. I was pretty sure that was the parallel you were aiming for. I've read it twice but not in quite a few years now.
This is a great piece. I'm clipping it to Newsviners Picks.
Killfile - your article on the dedication of this memorial is very moving - but I have to disagree with you on whether there should have been a 33rd stone.....if the student body and the families of the fallen at VT can forgive that monster I applaud them. Would you place a memorial of John Wilkes Booth at the Lincoln Memorial? I hope your answer would be no.
I again aplaud this columns. But forgive me for allowing me to keep harping when will America grasp the gun control nettle !
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